Identifying relationship red flags
July 22, 2010
Red flags in a relationship are clues that tell a person they are involved with someone who is abusive. Sometimes these clues can be subtle and therefore easy to miss and/or be interpreted as a gesture of love from their partner. Many people are interested to know exactly what these red flags are and although there are many types of behaviors that may indicate the relationship is abusive – there are a few general warning signs that can help recognize trouble in the horizon.
Here are a few red flags that may help identify an abusive relationship: Jealousy, quick involvement, controlling behavior, unrealistic expectations, isolation, blames others for his/her feelings, blames others for his/ her problems, hypersensitivity, cruelty to animals/others, verbal abuse, use of force in sex, threats of violence, breaking or striking objects, any use of force during arguments, past abuse and including but not limited to “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” behavior.
These are general red flags of abuse in a relationship. Remember that people who abuse their partners are not only men but can be women as well, and the South Lake Tahoe Women’s Center provides services for victims of abusive relationships whether they are men or women. Also, keep in mind that education is very important to maintain yourself and your loved ones safe. The South Lake Tahoe Women’s Center provides education to the residents of South Lake Tahoe about the dangers of abusive relationships/cycle of violence, domestic violence, sexual assault and child abuse. We provide this education in English, Spanish and Tagalog and through community presentations, at local schools, radio, television, and on our website, http://www.sltwc.org, where you can find links to our Facebook page and our blog and monthly columns in the Tahoe Daily Tribune.
If you are interested in knowing more about these topics or community presentations call us at (530) 544-2118.
– Liliana E. Sanchez is the outreach coordinator for the South Lake Tahoe Women’s Center. The Women Center’s business office was financed through a low-cost loan from the Rural Community Assistance Corporation.