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My View: Everyone should be allowed to get married

by Kathryn Reed, Tribune managing editor

Gays. It has become another four letter word with ill connotations.

Maybe it always has been and I’m just naive. Homosexuality has been making headlines recently. First with the Supreme Court telling Texas that homosexuals can have sex without fear of the government pulling back the sheets. Then Newsweek had a cover story about gay marriage. Now the Episcopalians have elected a gay bishop. The latest news came last week with a bill that would “extend all the rights and duties under California law of marriage to domestic partnerships.” It is awaiting the governor’s signature.

It wasn’t that long ago that Vice President Dick Cheney said, “People should be free to enter into any kind of relationship they want to enter into. It’s really no one else’s business in terms of trying to regulate or prohibit behavior in that regard.”

When talking about marriage between people of the same sex, then candidate Cheney said, “I think different states are likely to come to different conclusions, and that’s appropriate. I don’t think there should necessarily be a federal policy in this area.”

How progressive of someone from the Republican Party. Sure, there are the Log Cabin Republicans — the pro-gay minority contingency of the GOP.

Cheney’s daughter is a lesbian. Fortunately she has not been ostracized by her family as so often happens when people “come out.”

Cheney’s voting record while in Congress is more in line with President Bush’s current philosophy. The leader of the free world is dead-set against marriages other than those between a man and a woman. He wants to “codify” some legislation to make sure the sanctity of marriage remains intact.

Cheney in 1998 was one of the 13 representatives to deny AIDS funding, thinking it was just a gay disease.

Assemblyman Tim Leslie, the Republican who represents me in Sacramento, says, “Legally recognizing homosexual unions or placing them on the same level as marriage means we approve of deviant behavior ….” Fortunately his colleagues are more enlightened and chose to approve the legislation.

While on vacation last month, I listened to talk radio driving to the Duluth, Minn., airport. The mouthpieces spewed rhetoric about homosexuality being unnatural, immoral and the like.

I’ve never been married. It’s my choice. I lived with a guy for 10 years. For personal reasons we opted to not profess our love before God or make it legally binding.

But I don’t understand how anyone can feel threatened by homosexuals tying the knot. How does this threaten anyone? Why would anyone attempt to deny the rights of one couple from another? Why would anyone not want to celebrate the union of two people who love each other, are in a committed relationship and intend to spend the rest of their lives together? Why is one relationship deemed more noble, more righteous, more real than another?

Anyone who has been in love, in a committed relationship knows what that is like. They know the intensity, the work involved, the power of it. It should be a matter of personal choice to marry or not, not a matter of government regulation.

The last thing the folks in Washington, D.C., should do is give a second thought to creating an amendment to the Constitution that would ban homosexuals from marrying. The Constitution is about giving us rights, not taking them away.

And whatever happened to the GOP being the party that was for individual freedoms and less government?

Kathryn Reed is managing editor of the Tahoe Daily Tribune. She may be reached at or (530) 541-3880, ext. 251.

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