Publisher’s Perspective: Holidays and family — sometimes it’s the best recipe
With Christmas right around the corner it seemed like a good time to reflect on something that seems to always bubble up this time of year: family.
Depending on your family, it may be cause for a supreme eye roll or a full-throttle about face followed with a sprint for the hills. For others, it could mean the last time you get to see an aging family member with the chance to put one last memory into the bank or even the opportunity to see a service member who has returned safely from overseas.
For me, I’d love both of the latter. However, I will not be as lucky to get to see either my aging grandmother or my nephew on leave from his Marine deployment. Not because I don’t want to, but simply because life happens.
Balancing work and life is not always easy — sometimes it can seem downright impossible. But this column is not about that. It’s about finding the magic in the holidays and spreading that magic to the people you love the most (even the weird uncle).
Family can mean many different things. I have friends that I’ve known for so long and care for so much that they may as well be family. My sister likes to refer to these as “framily.” These are the people that Robin Williams refers to in “Good Will Hunting” as the folks who would lay down in traffic for you. I’m paraphrasing, but you get the idea.
Let’s also not forget our “work family” — the people who you may spend more time with than your actual family. Depending where you work you may not have that same sentimental attachment as you do with framily, but still care about them enough to grab a decent white elephant gift and share a laugh at the casual holiday party.
I’m lucky enough to have an amazing work family — a group of people whose presence I truly enjoy each day I walk into the office (but only when they don’t need me to solve a problem).
Jokes aside, the holidays can be a difficult time for many. For some, the struggle can be mighty. If you know someone like this, hold them tight and let them know you care. Sometimes that can make all the difference in the world.
Holidays should be about joy and happiness. If you’re lucky enough to have this in your family, spread it around. Pass it along. Or to pull another movie reference, pay it forward.
The holidays don’t need to be perfect. In fact, the imperfect times are usually the best stories. Don’t feel you have to make everything “just right.” Make it more about “right now.” Don’t be the downer. Talk with your cousins. Play games with the younger ones. Hold the baby. Have a beer with your dad. Whatever it is that puts that magic of the holidays in you, find that secret sauce.
Enjoy the moment at hand and unplug from your cell phone and computers. It’s those material things that will come and go. It’s the relationships you build and experiences you create that you take with you forever. Create more of that. I guarantee you if you do, you find much more peace there than you will at the bottom of a Facebook post.
From all of us here at the Tribune, we wish you a wonderful, joy-filled holiday — regardless of what life puts at your doorstep.
Publisher Rob Galloway can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or 530-542-8046.